At this point just absorbing information ambiently has kind of run it’s course. Yes, you are still doing that. But now you are more interested in all of the things there are around you. Things like electrical outlets and power tools. Also you are creating internal profiles for people you like and don’t like. You are not at all concerned with peoples feelings, just your own. So Grandma gives me lots o presents, oh yeah, she’s great. Aunt kisses me too much? ummm…yeah, i’ll pass.
You’re walking and possibly talking as well as causing trouble that you don’t understand but you roll with it. From here on out, you are just getting better and better at being a kid. You are ok with mom and dad’s rules, but you think there might be too many of them. All of these birthdays just kind of melt together. Really it’s more of a personal payday than anything. Of course Christmas is the other payday, but everyone gets that.
Well you are a teenager now. Really the larval stage of becoming an adult. You are really interested in being an adult but you kind of go here and there with your experiences. Your teenage years will be among your most memorable. If you are lucky, some of the friends you make in the next few years will be among your best. Full of firsts and achievements. Now you’re thinking independently and starting to weigh consequences v.s. your decisions. Getting in trouble isn’t enough to dissuade you from trying some things.
The next few years you will be able to do a lot to forward or retard your progress as an adult. You start this series of years likely being very much yourself and end this bunch of years figuring out what your adult face is going to look like. How you will behave around others v.s. around family or friends. You learn by trial and error; this can be among the cruelest of years with plenty being both dealt and received.
Also known as the legal age of majority (except in Alabama, Nebraska, and Mississippi where the ages are 19, 19, and 21), lots of reasons this is significant. Up until now, you have been more or less not responsible for your crimes. Instead of sending you to prison for doing something wrong, they send you to a youth facility where you will hopefully pull yourself out of your tailspin. On the other hand it’s also significant because you can vote! Sure it doesn’t mean much to you, but it’s time to be more aware of the world around you.
By now you are ready to ditch the burger flipping jobs and get into something a little more career like. You may or may not further your education, but whatever you do, you have probably at least partially cut the apron strings to your parents. You feel much more ready for life than you actually are, but now you have what it takes to do it. Remember this feeling of semi-bewilderment. It’s one you’ll have most of your life, but you will only feel it as strongly as you do right now as you are considered an adult.
Fast on the heels of 18, 21 is the age at which nothing that is legal is barred from you (except you will find that renting cars is still surprisingly difficult) You can do it all, you can gamble, you can own stuff easily, you are fully responsible for yourself. The world assumes you’ve got enough on the ball that you should be able to do all kinds of things. Really the only thing that makes it different than 18 is 3 years and drinking (In most states, some will let you get away with it younger) and gambling. Neither of these pursuits are particularly grand. Once tried a couple of times you should probably realize that they are both more expensive than you like and not nearly as exciting as they are cracked up to be.
This age isn’t quite as definite. In fact, it appears to be optional. Sorry to end this blog on a downer, but…You see there is a point in your life at which you are no longer vibrant. Either through disease or inaction, you can feel your clock winding down. You just wake up with the aches and pains of life. And the stack of medications that you have to down every day and you realize that you are just a walking bunch of trouble. It should be noted that this age only happens when you literally can’t do anything that you like anymore.
At some point when you go to the hospital, you will stop expecting to come out better, if at all. From what I’ve seen there are a few people. Who stave this age off by remaining active and interested in things. They let their interest push them through the pain. Easy to say if you aren’t in that situation, it’s just what I’ve heard. Apparently Bingo is one of these activities.
Geeze Mark, that was a real downer. Yeah, I know. Life has to be taken as a whole and the sum of all of it’s parts not each part by itself. If you aren’t living the life you have like you would like, then make your changes. The only good changes are the ones you make yourself. All of those other changes people keep telling you are good? Yeah, they are liars and their pants are on fire.